When our hearts are heavy with grief, writing can often be the outlet where not only emotions purge but untapped wisdom lies.I write every single day – articles, blog posts, inspirational posts for my Facebook wall. Sometimes when I look back on what I’ve written I think, wow! Did I really write that? Where did that come from?
It came from that place within normally hidden from view. That place within where flow comes if we tap into our true heart and our deep knowing – those recesses of the soul that normally we give little opportunity for expression. These are the places that are frequently triggered when tragedy or adversity strikes. In great pain, in great loss, in great grief comes an outpouring of beauty, an outpouring of wisdom and inspiration.
So today I want to share with you my list of Top 10 Inspirational Grief Quotes from many who have also felt the pain of loss and the burden of grief.
“I need someone who believes that the sun will rise again but who does not fear my darkness. Someone who can point out the rocks in my way without making me a child by carrying me. Someone who can stand in thunder and watch the lightning and believe in a rainbow.” ~ Fr Joe Mahoney
“The grief within me has its own heartbeat. It has its own life, its own song. Part of me wants to resist the rhythms of my grief, yet as I surrender to the song, I learn to listen deep within myself” ~ Alan Wolfelt
“Tears are words that need to be written” ~ Paulo Coelho
“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” ~ Gandhi
“Every day my love for you grows higher, deeper, wider, stronger……..It grows and grows until it touches the tip of where you are and comes back to me in the loving memory of you, and my heart melts with that love and grows even more.” ~ Maureen Hunter
“You are not enclosed within your bodies, nor confined to houses or fields. That which is you dwells above the mountain and roves with the wind….” ~ Kahlil Gibran
“And if I go, whilst you’re still here…know that I live on, vibrating to a different measure behind a thin veil…. ” ~ Colleen Corah Hitchcock*
* This was originally incorrectly attributed to Emily Dickinson but was in fact from the poem Ascension written by Colleen Hitchcock. You can find details of Colleens work here >>>>
“So long as we live they too shall live and love for they are a part of us, as we remember them” ~ Gates of Prayer
“Let me come in where you are weeping, friend and let me take your hand. I who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand” ~ Grace Noll Crowell
“When your eyes freeze behind the grey window and the ghost of loss gets in to you, may a flock of colours, indigo, red, green and azure blue come to awaken in you a meadow of delight.” ~ John O’Donohue
Have you written something as a result of a loss in your life? Is there a quote that inspires you in your grief?
I’d love to hear from you. Please leave a comment.
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Hi, I just wanted to tell you that I am so glad I found your website. Thank you so very much. It's been 7 1/2 months since my husband was killed in an accident after us being together and very much in love for 40 years. I have struggled and struggled and gotten down and out. I'm better now due to the dr. giving me some antidepressants but I'm still so lost without him and can't find purpose yet in my life. I'll search on here. Thank you again. Joann
Hugs to you Joann – its a journey of the heart and soul and it takes work to excavate ourselves again and live with some meaning once more. I know you will ~ Maureen
When my daughter died last month, a German friend sent me a Goethe quote “What one carries deep in his heart cannot be lost by death”. The sentiment of this quote has helped to sustain me because I know it to be true even though it is so painful to consider the loss.
Perhaps it might help someone else…..
Thats beautiful Anita and I am so sorry to hear of your daughter. I’m glad you found something such as this to to sustain you ~ Maureen
What if the person you are grieving for is not dead? I have not done very many smart things in my life. And for this my beloved son suffered for it. I have not seen him since he was 2. And it is killing me deep inside. Now I have gone on to have other kids. And try to be the best mommy for them. Some days I am doing everything for them. Other days I just want to curl up and bawl my eyes out. I just want all my babies together and. I sincerely wish to have a relationship with him again. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him. But by grieving for not having him around, I feel I am not being fair to my other kids. Either way though it is tearing me apart. I am not allowed to see my son. Just got to hope that they will allow me to send him a letter and or a picture. I just would like someone to talk to and help me move on as much as I can without going into a deep depression.
Deb I am so sorry for what has happened in your past. Although this site is for those grieving through the death of a loved one you may find that many of the articles and videos will help you. It may be beneficial for you to seek the services of a professional counsellor who can help you with the deep seated loss you feel for your boy as there may be many things that complicate the feelings of grief you are experiencing right now. Your doctor should be able to refer you to someone who can help you best. Blessings ~ Maureen
Here's a poem for my daughter Cynthia
Fall
In the crux of meandered time
Haunting lyrics of your speech
Heard through the long day
Record a love transcendent
Fractured gait, a celestial dance
My sunny companion is gone
To a better place
A place without pain
Yet I remain
In pain cold and rain
Falling falling falling
Leaves scoured from the trees
Fly through the sleepless night
On my knees alone with only
Remembered moments as solace
I hear your voice and feel you
Near my mind full of teasing
Little love lost and broken
Tears well up
Sighing sobs my only speech
In an indifferent and often cruel world
You found people to love and love you back
Did you know you would be missed this much
Did you know your profound effect?
So encumbered by your limits
Burning eyes watched your pain
Now limitless, I wish you here again
Streaming eyes declare the pain transferred
I carried you but never your burden
Difficult was our path, pain your lot
Commanded to rejoice, I cannot
Longing only to see you again
Gray clouds, gray days, gray spirit, gray heart
Poetry can be so very healing Susan, thanks for sharing ~ Maureen
I am so glad I found this site,it has brought so much comfort,i lost my son,then i found the most wonderful man,we loved each other so much and his life was taken just like my sons.It has been so hard,but there is light at the end of the tunnel.Thank you again
Elizabeth
I am so sorry to hear that Elizabeth, keep their love around you always ~ Maureen
Dearest Maureen,
thank you for these beautiful quotes. God bless you. You are truly an inspiration
I would never ever think of suicide. To me that would be a total dishonor to my husband. I have however suffered a heart attack because of stress and grieve and now I must get better so I can honor him. He would be so hurt if I did not. So I am not going back to the job I hate that gives me the most stress and I am going to start to love life again.this year I’m gonna grow some tomatoes again. I love garden tomato sandwiches. Yum. Life look out because I am going to enjoy every moment I have. My shepherd is so glad I’m back home she does not leave my side. She and all those I love need me here and here I will stay. I miss my husband very mush but he will always be a part of me, nothing can take that from me.
How wonderful that you have looked at your life and decided to honour your beloved husband by living, that is to heal from grief indeed RuthAnn ~ Maureen
Beautiful quotes Maureen. Thanks for sharing. I especially like the first one: “I need someone who believes that the sun will rise again but who does not fear my darkness. Someone who can point out the rocks in my way without making me a child by carrying me. Someone who can stand in thunder and watch the lightning and believe in a rainbow.” ~ Fr Joe Mahoney
Lovely and so very much how I feel.
I’m so glad iv found u guys! I lost my dad wen I was 3 then my brother 7 yrs ago and my fiance 2 yrs ago grief is my day and my night..
Help me xxx
Feel for your hurting heart Angela, blessings to you ~ Maureen
The tears don’t stop, but they get a little warmer.
I wrote that and I had no idea I felt that way until I finished typing. It is true though. I lost my Joshua 1 year, 3 weeks, and 2 days ago.
Joshua is my son. I can’t celebrate birthdays, but I can enjoy angelversaries now…
I lost both my parents a few years ago, first my father to suicide and then my mom to cancer. Currently losing my only child to mental health and addiction issues. I can’t make sense of life anymore, just constant unrelenting anguish.
This site is beautiful! I wish I had seen it when I was suffering from loss myself! I’m so glad I ran across it! Now to show my friends…!
My beautiful baby girl (21yrs old) and my best friend Taylor Madison decided to check herself out 4months ago.I found her hanging from a rope in my garage.I had just been talking with her 45mins before.I thought it was a SICK PRANK.She was a purple maniquin hanging from a noose.I get stuck and cant seem to move for hours on end.The only thing moving are my uncontrolable tears and the air I’m gasping inorder to get the next breath.Behonest does it get any easier? Because if you ask me now,I would say it doesn’t.
I feel so very much for you Trace and what you are going through right now. When I was 4 months in I thought I wouldnt be able to get through this, now that I’m at nearly 6 years it has become much easier and I am happy and living a life I never thought I would after my son’s death. I keep my relationship with him strong, its not in the way I envisaged it would be, its as it is now, a relationship beyond the physical alone. Sending you heart hugs and blessings for the love you share with Taylor to bless you each and every day ~ Maureen
I am so sorry for your loss, I dont think alot of people understand what it feels like to lose a child. But you and I have different circumstances. I couldnt even imagine finding my mandy that way.Im sure it goes thru your mind everyday . OCT.26th will be 9 months my daughter was 26and had been sick with CYSTIC fIBROSIS ALL her life. People say things like you had her alot longer than they said u would. I really thought she would make it. My Mandy was an only child. DO you have other children. ALL MY friends keep saying she wouldnt want me to be this way and I dont think anyone understands unless theyve lost a child . My heart goes out to you and they say it gets easier but its not for me. I cant shake it if u find away let me know. Your in my prayers.
Debbie I am sorry to read of all your heartache, all your pain. Grief is so very painful and so very huge. At times it seems impossible that we will really live again. I believe we all can, we all will. We never shake it, for it stays with us always just in differing degrees. I have found a way and I share it in my free 30 day email series. If you havent got it here is the link, it may be your new beginning ~ Maureen http://esdeer.com/living-after-loss-when-you-dont-know-how/
Trace,
My baby girl Kayler was 3 years old when she passed away. She had somehow got caught in a robe sash that was tied to the girls’ bunk bed and she hung herself. The image is burned into my mind and I cannot tell you how very sorry I am for your loss. Her accident was July 27, 2012 and after 29 days in Children’s Hospital, she passed away August 25, 2012. When we found her she did not have a heartbeat and they were able to regain it on the way to the local hospital. But she had severe brain damage from lack of oxygen and would never regain consciousness. Every day is getting a little better. It seems my brain blocks a lot out right now. It helps to talk about it for me and it also helps to let loose when I need to cry. Let myself scream and sob.
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My twin daughters lost their college bestfriend to a disease no one knew he had, wilson’s disease. He collapsed during a cross country meet. He was in his 20s and full of life and gone in a second. My daughters are devastated and I don’t know how to help them. Today we printed pictures of them for the wake and it was the saddest thing for me to see the pain they are in. What can you say to someone that lost a friend that was like their brother?
I lost my wife of 27 years 6 months ago. The pain keeps getting worst. She was overweight and that caused heart failure. I keep blaming myself for not making her lose weight. I wonder is a short happy life with a man that loves you no mater what better that a longer life with someone constantly nagging you about your weight. I just doesn’t seem fair. This wasn’t how it was what I was told it was going to be like. We where going to grow old together. Now I’m so lonely. I have me kids to raise, but it is so hard sometimes. Thank you for letting me get this out.
I lost my Dad in feb. 2009 he had alzheimers and had a heart attack. Ive lived with him all my life. He built an apt. for my daughter and I above his house on the water. 9 months after my Dad passed I lost a close friend of 34 yrs. I was in the room when they took her off life support. 5 months after that I lost another close friend of 34 yrs. In January of this yr, I LOST my 26 yr old daughter who was awaiting a double lung transplant due to Cystic Fibrosis. Im totally beside myself. She would have been 27 on sept 27th so we had a party anyway. The last thing she said is my lungs are tired, I love u Mom. They put her on the ventilator and after 10 days her kidneys shut down and they said she would pass. When the critical care unit from hopkins came to get her they said she was as near to death and still be living. im lost I sleep 3 days at a time and dont feel I have a purpose anymore. She was my everything!
On Feb 3rd 2012 My husband passed away. He was only 42 Years old. I didnt get to say Goodbye to him… I didnt get to say I LOVE YOU one last time. That next night when I finally drifted off for a few minutes I was woken by a poem that was running thru my head so loudly I couldnt sleep. I wrote this at 4 am in the morning and I read it at his funeral and NOW I live 3 seconds at a time.
3 SECONDS….
If I had 3 seconds with you standing before me I would KISS YOU SOFTLY
If I had 3 seconds with you standing before me I would HUG YOU TIGHTLY
If I had 3 seconds with you standing before me I would TELL YOU I LOVE YOU….. but I dont… For GOD has said many times…. You know NOT THE HOUR I will come for you! I LOVE YOU….. ALWAYS HAVE… Till we meet again my love!
Thank you for allowing me to share this little piece of my heart with you.
Its a beautiful little piece of your heart Mary – thank you so much for sharing it ~ Maureen
Maureen- I lost my friend, 16 years old, to suicide back in April. I am so glad I found your site.
my first daughter -my love remained in bedridden state for 6 yrs .i saw her sinking daily .she left us two yrs ago, was just 8 …my second daughter is now in the same state for last 20 months ….they are victims of metachromatic leukodystrophy ……. i lost one n the other too . i see them dying daily .i feel helpless n sorry to comfort them in any manner .there is no concept of grief councelling in my country .they cannot understand you that why ur sad for a person who was chronically ill .it stabs my heart ………..
Feel so much for all you are going through Sadaf, may you find some comfort through these posts and in the support and love from myself and others ~ Maureen
Sadaf,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss of your daughter and now having to face it all over again with your other child-is heart-breaking. Life is not fair but there is a Creator God that watches over us and is interested in having a relationship with each one of us. All we have to do is pray to the Lord God in heaven and seek truth in the Holy Bible and you will find peace that can only come from God. The world is full of deception but if you seek the Lord with all your heart, you will find me. God bless you and may you find the peace you deserve.
The first time my heart beats to the women that took my heart and will not give it back, passed away in a week of sadness that i thought she will always be there and ill have all the time to be with her but it was that day when she was gone for ever and ever. I’m trying to write what i feel but all it is that I’m doing is trying to stop the tears that cant wait to shed for her and will not stop, but i will always live for her and believe that one day or hour or just one second we will be united in the most beautiful moment anyone will die for. my life started when she left me lonely and just thinking there is no one that will be there for me. its so hard that i think she is alive somewhere her close to me, or that she is always around me saving my life and trying to distract my heart from remembering her every moment i live. it a blessing that I knew that one I live and die for even though life sometimes turns around clod, so cold i cannot understand why but i hope i will………………..
I usually don’t do these kind of things, but tonight I feel as if I need to reach out. This past January, I lost my father to a massive heart attack at the age of 58. As if losing him wasn’t enough, it was in our home, hours after I spent the night with him, and we all had to endure the forgettable pain of seeing him lifeless on our living room floor, as I tried to revive him, and my mom, sister, and grandmother watched. My dad was my best friend in the world. My mom hasn’t worked since I was 9(I’m 23 now), and has always suffered from severe depression, so things have been incredibly hard on her. He was the main source of income in our home, so financially it has been a burden, but not having him here as our backbone is the hardest thing. Nonetheless, after he passed, my older brother’s best friend became like another family member to us. He stepped up and helped us out with chores around the house, cooking, cleaning, and keeping my mom company when I was at work or my sister was at school. He would be here 3-5 days a week just taking care of us when no one asked him to, despite his own issues. I saw him the morning of November 18th, as I was leaving for work. That night at work, I received a phone call telling me that he had died, at the age of 35. We learned later it was a drug overdose. This has been heart wrenching, as he had become a brother to me, a son to my mom, etc. This year has pushed me to limits that I am having so much trouble dealing with. I don’t know where my life is going right now. I can’t go back to school, work isn’t going well, I just don’t know where it’s headed.
Dan I am so sorry for all the heartache and trauma you have suffered over the past little while, how very devastating for you. Try not to put any great expectations on yourself right now, except taking each moment, step by step and day by day. Simplify all you can in your life. Sending you love ~ Maureen
Grief is like a wound, when it first happens it’s new. It hurts so bad and you wonder how or when it’s going to heal, but one day you realize it has turned to a scar, it didn’t go away.. it’s always there you can see it and feel it, and sometimes you may scratch the surface and it can still bleed & become painful again but then it heals again. I think this is true for our grief, in the beginning its so painful & we feel it’s never going to be the same again but slowly over time we begin to live again, and sometimes whether it be a special date, a song or a memory it feels new again. It never goes away, we just learn to live with it like the scars of our bodies.
Grief does indeed change us forever Teresa, thank you for sharing your special thoughts ~ Maureen
I’m 17 and my mom died a few months ago from a rare disease. This site help me find the quote that I plan to put on my body for the rest of my life. While reading these quotes it also gave me hope and I thank you for that.
I’m so sorry Marta about your beautiful Mum but so very pleased to hear that you found your special quote for her. I have a tattoo for my son and it gives me comfort and connection with him every time I see it, every single day. May yours bring you the same, it’s a lovely thing to do ~ Maureen
My daughter Mia was 3 when she was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia. She was 2 months shy of turning 6 when she passed away in September of this year. She fought very hard and always had a smile on her face. My 15 year donated her bone marrow to try and save her baby sister’s life last year. Since she has died I feel empty and lost. I question my faith and have lost hope in everything. I know I have to go on living life, and I plan to live my life to the fullest, but it’s just so hard to have that feeling of emptiness all the time. I miss her dearly. Here is a poem I wrote for her….
Missing Mia
It was a cloudy Sunday morning, the day God granted you your angel wings.
You put your arms up for daddy to carry you, once you were safe in his arms, your soul went home.
We knew at that moment in our shattered world, that nothing would ever matter again.
Nothing would ever be the same without you.
Our loss was Heavens gain.
It was so hard to watch them wrap your body.
Knowing you would never return to our home or this world.
I cried holding your blanket and teddy bear as I watched them drive your body away.
I just couldn’t belive your life had to end.
I felt like it was all a dream, more like a nightmare that I will never awaken from.
Everyday I struggle, and everyday tears fall from my eyes,
My world feels so empty, everyday I ask God “why?”
Why did he have to take my child?, I just want to hear his reply.
Yet I never hear anything, only silence.
That silence is so loud.
I miss you my pumpkin butt,
I miss your laugh, your smile.
I miss hearing you tell me you love me out of nowhere.
I will never get over loosing you.
This pain is almost unbearable, I try to keep it locked away.
Yet everyday it’s still there, my heart always hurts the same.
Every morning I look at your empty pillow, in my mind I see you asleep.
I’d give anything to touch you or feel you hugging me.
Mia momma misses you, you were a big part of my life.
Now that your gone, my life just isn’t right.
I suppose I’ll continue to hide behind my mask,
pretending I’m ok. Putting on a fake smile, laughing a fake laugh.
Waiting for that day, when we’ll be together again,
running and playing under the sun. Singing and coloring,
just having fun.
Life can go by so fast, this was something I never knew.
You taught me so much,
I would have never learned these things without you.
I always asked you “you promise to come back to me?”
You always told me yes.
The day after you passed away, you kept that promise.
I will always cherish the signs you send me,
my eyes will always be wide open.
I just have to learn to live with this heart of mine,
that will forever be broken.
Melinda Ortega
That was so beautiful
Alanna
I spend many hours searching through various grief sites, reading poems and heartbreaking words from grieving souls, in an attempt to wade through my own grief. At the age of 59 and a wonderful life, I have suddenly lost in the last 15 months, my brother, husband of 30yrs, father, 39 yr old step-son (murdered), my best girlfriend of 25 yrs, last week my nine year old dog on Xmas Eve and now my 86yr old mother wants me to move her from here to WIndsor, Nova Scotia to spend her last years. I barely manage to survive one loss when another arises, and I can barely handle the grief. This site is very helful, as are the words of others. Please say a prayer that I survive this and someday will be whole again – because right now, I don’t belive it.
The darkest moments of our lives are not to be buried and forgotten.
Rather they are a memory to call upon for inspiration, to remind us of the unrelenting human spirit and our capacity to overcome the intolerable.
That is a strong reminder that i can do this thing,,,survive my struggle with grief. The loss of my son torments me every day…yet here I am two years later to testify that I am a survivor.Thanks for the inspiration ! The Human Spirit truly is amazing.
Hi there,
I have lost one of the most amazing friends about 8 months ago. She started of a my school teacher and quickly after my Mentor and good friends. I’ve known her for 35 years and it was she could inspired my to stay strong when things got rough through my journey of life. When she passed suddenly, I can’t begin tell tell you what a huge lose this was for me. I have lost many people I loved but this one hurt the most. I can’t stop thinking of her and so desperately want her back. I know that isn’t possible but letting go is still too difficult. She inspired many people in her life. her students adored her. She truly was an Angel here on earth and gave so much. I lost a friend who gave me the wind beneath my wings. I have experienced grief before but this one is so much more difficult. I do write poems about my loved ones but finding it difficult to write for my friend, my mentor and my Angel now in heaven.
Hi there,
I have lost one of the most amazing friends about 8 months ago. She started of a my school teacher and quickly after my Mentor and good friends. I’ve known her for 35 years and it was she could inspired my to stay strong when things got rough through my journey of life. When she passed suddenly, I can’t begin tell tell you what a huge lose this was for me. I have lost many people I loved but this one hurt the most. I can’t stop thinking of her and so desperately want her back. I know that isn’t possible but letting go is still too difficult. She inspired many people in her life. her students adored her. She truly was an Angel here on earth and gave so much. I lost a friend who gave me the wind beneath my wings. I have experienced grief before but this one is so much more difficult. I do write poems about my loved ones but finding it difficult to write for my friend, my mentor and my Angel now in heaven.
Please search for this Song “For Good”. From Wicked. It has kept me afloat with my emotions because it is such a beautiful peace. Here are the lyrics….
I’m limited
Just look at me – I’m limited
And just look at you
You can do all I couldn’t do, Glinda
So now it’s up to you
For both of us – now it’s up to you…
I’ve heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return
Well, I don’t know if I believe that’s true
But I know I’m who I am today
Because I knew you…
Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you
I have been changed for good
It well may be
That we will never meet again
In this lifetime
So let me say before we part
So much of me
Is made from what I learned from you
You’ll be with me
Like a handprint on my heart
And now whatever way our stories end
I know you have re-written mine
By being my friend…
[ From: http://www.elyrics.net ]
Like a ship blown from its mooring
By a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a skybird
In a distant wood
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you
Because I knew you
I have been changed for good
(Elphaba):
And just to clear the air
I ask forgiveness
For the things I’ve done you blame me for
But then, I guess we know
There’s blame to share
And none of it seems to matter anymore
Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood
Like a ship blown from its mooring
By a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a bird in the wood
Who can say if I’ve been
Changed for the better?
I do believe I have been
Changed for the better
And because I knew you…
Because I knew you…
Because I knew you…
I have been changed for good…
“Moving on is like learning how to live with an amputated leg. You know your leg is gone everytime you stare at your stump but you learn to live without it. You feel phantom pain at times, but it’s a reminder that you’re still alive and can be loved again.” -a widow
Hi Maureen, I recently lost my beautiful daughter in October 2012 at the age of 25. Not only was she my baby but my best friend. I struggle each day to understand and believe she is gone. My heart is broken and i am an empty shell. My councilor encouraged me to write my feelings and i would like to share this
“SEARCHING”.
People say to me, I don’t know what to do or say to help. I just can’t imagine the pain you must be going through. I look “SEARCHINGLY” into their eyes and think, if you can help me find what I am looking for that would be all I would ask of you.
I start the day, waiting for my usual phone call “Just calling to say I love you mum, have a great day”. But when the phone rings I “SEARCH” the display only to realise it isn’t the call I was expecting, I don’t answer it. THEN I REALISE.
I go through the motions, putting one foot in front of the other, get in the car to go to work, as I drive I “SEARCH” the faces of people in white cars, my heart skips a beat, there’s my baby girl!!! THEN I REALISE.
As I greet the people in my day, I am “SEARCHING”, thinking any minute I will catch a glimpse, hear a familiar voice but it is not to be. THEN I REALISE.
As I walk around the street, I am “SEARCHING” the crowds. I think, she must be here somewhere don’t give up hope. I look at the young mums with their children, smiling, laughing. I see the sparkle in their eyes as they see the future ahead of them. THEN I REALISE.
When I look into my beautiful granddaughters eyes, I am “SEARCHING”. I go back in time 23 years, I smile, and finally I think I have found what I have been looking for. THEN I REALISE.
The day is almost over, I lie there “SEARCHING” and going over and over in my head, what could I have done differently???? Trying to understand, trying to justify how, why????Trying to remember the last time I saw my baby girls beautiful face. And THEN I REALISE I will have to spend the rest of my life “SEARCHING” until I reach the end of the rainbow and feel her arms around me, hear her voice, hear those words again “LOVE YOU TOO”.
Then my “SEARCH” will be over.
Written By: Debra Calvert “For Ashleigh Susan”.
There are no words Debra for a loss so deep. Your poem is so very true and so very touching. Blessings to you ~ Maureen
Hello, thanks for all the letters. I lost my wife March 30th, just a few days ago. She was only 49 and died of Lung Cancer. I am having a very hard time dealing with her lose. My wife was my friend, we did everything together and I miss her dearly. I find myself going to the gravesite several times a day just to be close to her. I am completely lost without her. She was the love of my life. I dont want to go back to work. Anyway, it was nice to read the letters above. To know there are others going through the same things seem to help a little. I dont have any inspriational saying, my wife would give the perfect quote from the bible……I won’t.
Here I am 380 days since saying a final goodbye to my partner. My husband was my partner in every aspect of life…our marriage our children our our hopes and dreams. He was 54 years old and even though we experienced so many beautiful days there still wasn’t enough years. Our love is true and now bittersweet. I miss him every single day and tears continue. I have isolated myself from just about everyone as most think it’s time for me to move on, let him go, or some other cliche. My heart still physically feels the loss of my sweet darling man. The numbness is wearing off and it’s like living through those last horrific days of his life all over again. I have lost my strength and desire for life while putting on a mask for our family. I pray for strengh and guidance as I cannot have not functioned without God carrying me for which the one thing I am grateful .
I am too dealing with grief; I lost my only son to brain cancer, just 4 months ago. I was at his bedside when he passed along with my husband, daughter, and his wife. Reading your comments, each person’s story has helped me feel not so alone.
I found the following quote that has helped me go on with my life:
Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying:
“I will try again tomorrow”
I lost my 21 yr old daughter in a car accident on 16 dec 2012 . The day is fixated in my head and I feel I can’t move beyond that incident. I chanced upon this site yesterday and reading thru the pain of everybody’s loss and grief makes me realise that only ur faith in god will heal u because if god has given us grief he will give us happiness too.