I liken those who deal with grief as warriors. Warriors because each person who is grieving the loss of a loved one is actively engaged in a major war. It is a war of engagement, a war of conflict and a war of survival. A war fought on many battlefields of the heart and soul, enduring for many a long day and night.
Nonetheless, you probably don’t feel like a warrior, but you are. Losing a loved one is not something that you chose, but you can choose to be a warrior with a warrior spirit. You can trust in yourself and in your own ability to get through this. This isn’t about denying your feelings or pretending to be someone you are not. It is about instilling the belief in yourself that you can do this.
To accompany you on the battlefield, take with you these words. So named, warrior words to guide and support you towards healing. Some may seem impossible for you to contemplate right now, but don’t forget them. They are here when you are ready, to inspire you and fill you with what you need next.
Hope hangs on an internal hook, a guiding beacon within, filling you with love and light. Telling you that no matter what, you can and will heal. You will be happy and fulfilled again.
Life has become uncertain, but even amidst that uncertainty you have decided to take that first step. Moreover, in that first step comes the momentum to keep moving forward amidst the fear and doubt to explore what lies unseen beyond your current reality.
Even though you don’t think you can get through this – think again. I know you will, hard as it is, I know you can! Faith is the strength that comes from others, from the divine, from the unknowing of life that brings this gift to you.
When everything falls apart the greatest strength you have is to be yourself. It is your grief, your journey; your decisions will make it right for you. Your true self will shine through.
Whilst similar in many ways to faith, trust comes from deep within. It is a well of self-belief that has to grow, becoming stronger each day. You are stronger than you know, stronger than you feel and stronger than you think.
Love always transcends loss, becoming greater with each new dawn. It is the love you have in your heart that will help you find the way.
“It is not in the falling that we demonstrate resilience, but in the getting back up again”…I Poulsen. That which gets you up to do what you do every day, amidst the pain, amidst the tears. Facing pain and becoming greater than the pain of grief itself, that is resilience.
Don’t allow what has happened to you to define your life now in ways that you don’t want. Rise above your circumstances, allow your sorrow to find its voice and roar.
Maureen Hunter is a grief coach, bereaved mother, author and speaker. She is widely known for providing inspiration and instilling hope into the lives of many experiencing grief and loss. Her unique gifts lie in understanding the territory of grief and insightfully helping individuals how to deal with grief and move forwards into their own “living after loss”.