I received my local Compassionate Friends newsletter today. In it was this poem about grief, loss and love which I wanted to share with you.
I have heard this expression so many times, but it is particularly apt for anyone dealing with grief. I could really relate to the words so well and I am sure you will too.
For those who are wondering how best to help someone who is grieving – read the poem and then speak their name to the person you care about. It is sweet nectar to their heart and soul.
The Elephant in the Room
There’s an elephant in the room.
It’s large and squatting, so it’s hard to get round it.
Yet we squeeze by with, “How are you?” and “I’m fine,”
And a thousand other forms of trivial chatter.
We talk about the weather. We talk about work.
We talk about everything else, except that elephant in the room.
We all know it’s there.
We’re thinking about the elephant as we talk together.
It’s constantly on our minds. For, you see, it is a very large elephant.
It has hurt us all.
But we don’t talk about the elephant in the room.
Oh, please say his (her) name.
Oh, please, say his (her) name again.
Oh please, talk about the elephant in the room.
For if we talk about his (her) death,
Perhaps we can talk about his (her) life.
Can I say his (her) name to you and not have you look away?
For if I cannot, then you are leaving me………
in a room…..
With an elephant…..
Author: Terry Kettering. (Courtesy of “Yesterday, Today & Tomorrow” TCF Mandurah Chapter newsletter)