Monday Video Message: 18th July 2011
When dealing with my own grief, having some quiet time and some space was a major part of my healing and growing. The space to grieve is something that Tabitha Jayne talks about in her Tree of Transformation grief work. It’s allowing yourself the space to grieve, space to just be and space to allow whatever needs to come, to come.
In the winter of July 2007, I needed to get away so I bought an old coaster bus and with my dog Jessie, escaped to a place in the sun for 3 months. I needed that space, I needed to get away to reflect and contemplate my loss and what my life meant from then on. It helped me immensely and I found direction in my life as a result.
Whilst many do not recommend making any major decisions in the first year after a major loss or trauma, only you can make the right decisions for you. It might be helpful to consider the following:
Only you can know in your heart whether its a good thing for you to go away for an extended period of time.
Only you will know whether it’s going to impact on other people and what the ramifications of that are.
Only you will know whether it is safe, whether the environment you are going to is safe, whether you yourself will be safe.
You dont need to go away to allow yourself space to grieve. You can take a couple of hours, or a couple of days. All you need is you, a quiet place and some time for reflection. Some time for you to think about “I cant change what has happened in my life, what now, where to from now?”
I hope thats given you some thoughts about how you can use space to help you in your grief. Until next time……